Therapy helps people turn their lives and relationships around, but getting close to someone in love is not the natural process we like to imagine. Understanding how your childhood helped shape your template for how to love […]
Do you want to understand the power of self compassion to help you when in pain, anywhere and anytime? Does it sound too good to be true? When people experience something going wrong at work —whether it’s a bad sales quarter, being overlooked for a promotion, or a conflict with a colleague—it’s common to respond […]
Depression can be helped with self compassion. Are you feeling flat, low and basically suffering because you are critical about what is happening in your life? Or perhaps you are aware you as a person are the problem and you are just not happy with yourself right now. These feelings can spiral you down towards […]
The Christmas season is “meant” to be filled with happiness, but for you maybe it is a time of unspeakable stress, anxiety, or loneliness. Christmas arrives with high expectations of perfect, happy families enjoying luxurious celebrations and gifts. It is very hard for any of us to avoid this fantasy and the […]
Increasing mastery makes you feel competent […]
You may not have a beautifully organized sock drawer, or have your herbs and spices organized alphabetically, but perfectionistic habits could be holding you back. The sad truth is relationships can be ruined by perfectionism. Understanding what it is and how to soften it, is a good way to avoid the risk this streak in […]
Are you recovering from a relationship breakup? Trying to work out what went wrong so you don’t repeat the same thing over again. Or are you needing help with your relationship because you are fighting and stuck and miserable? Often a crisis ocurrs before anyone seeks the help of a couples therapist. Why? I guess […]
The fairytale and the reality of marriage is something we think we are too astute to get caught up in. But do many of us still have unrealistic expectations of what it takes to make a long term relationship work? Like anything worthwhile, really putting in to make you intimate relationship work takes good intentions […]
There are only two things you can truly control—your thoughts and what you do. No one else can choose either one of those for you. Thinking about the past with regret can become negative and robs you of your present well-being and, over time, can lead to serious problems like anxiety