Therapy helps people turn their lives and relationships around, but getting close to someone in love is not the natural process we like to imagine. Understanding how your childhood helped shape your template for how to love […]
Are you recovering from a relationship breakup? Trying to work out what went wrong so you don’t repeat the same thing over again. Or are you needing help with your relationship because you are fighting and stuck and miserable? Often a crisis ocurrs before anyone seeks the help of a couples therapist. Why? I guess […]
The fairytale and the reality of marriage is something we think we are too astute to get caught up in. But do many of us still have unrealistic expectations of what it takes to make a long term relationship work? Like anything worthwhile, really putting in to make you intimate relationship work takes good intentions […]
Have you become obsessively glued to your device? Do you sleep with your phone beside your bed?
Maybe you find yourself only half listening to your partner when in fact you want to check the new message which just arrived with a disruptive ping.
We already suspect that devices are making us more distracted […]
You have discovered your partner has cheated on you. You are shocked… feel like the rug has been pulled from under you and now angry that you have been lied to and betrayed so easily. After you get over the initial shock, you can’t stop chasing down every last detail of what happened. You need to […]
Do you want to cultivate happiness, foster understanding and prioritise your loved one and yourself?” Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT) can help you create a closer relationship.” Personally, EFT taught me to gradually learn to stay open-hearted and maintain perspective even during disagreements, not every time, but much more often. I learnt how to fight fair and […]
Simply because in our culture we are brought up to believe the fairytale. No-one mentioned in the job description, the consistent discipline of compromise, patience, loyalty or the hard – won empathy required from both people to make it work. Yet any of you in a long term relationship probably know, love is a […]
Work – life balance is a moving target. The reality of getting ahead in the professional sphere is being dedicated to your career, which can be a truly demanding taskmaster. How do you have it all? It’s hard enough being focused and navigating the everyday perils and politics of a stimulating and challenging job. Yet once […]
My colleague Clinton Power has done the heavy lifting with this great summary and transcript of Stan Tatkin’s Tedx talk on relationships. What I love about this particular talk is that Tatkin explains the neuroscience of why our partners’ frighten the hell out of us and what we can do about it. It is accessible, […]